“Thrist” After God, Not A Man Or Woman

                       

Single people stop being so “thirsty” for a man or woman. Instead, thirst after God. When you thrist after God, you are more prone to be submissive and to do what’s right. When you seek Christ God will provide you with everything you need. God is a jealous God. And he wants a relationship with before you get in a relationship with someone else. When God is ready he will send the perfect person just for you. Allow, God
to show you who he is and what his greatness consist of. In your singleness God is going to reveal somethings to you that, can’t reveal to you while you are busy in a relationship. In the meantime work on you. Get busy and build your brand.

Men stop chasing Skirts. Stop running after all of theses woman God, told you not to approch. Stop wasting your money and time on a woman who isn’t your wife. Save your money and put it in an account so, can have something to bring into your marriage. Get involved in ministry, there is no greater turn on than a man who loves and serves the Lord. Get off of social media being “Thristy,” and allow God to work on you.

Ladies, get yourself together. Let go of past relationships, release bitterness out of you, and forgive any man that ever hurt you. Start loving yourself. Accept who you are, amplify your good and work on your flaws. Become the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31. Be confident and walk like you are a woman of God who is fearfully made! Stop being “Thirsty,” dressing like whores and and wanting a dignified man. (You aren’t fooling yourself.) Men want take you serious because, you appearing as an sexually object.  Dressing like whores doesn’t get you respect it gets you laid. (one night stand along with another bruise to your heart)

I know theses things based on experience. I was lost without directions now, I’m  allowing God to be my compass. You do the same.

Forgive Yourself

Earlier this month was very emotional for me I celebrated my birthday, My mother’s birthday, and the anniversary of my mother’s death. Each year this difficult for me to experience. This year was even harder because, I had to experience alone. The kids were away, I don’t have a spouse, nor do I have anyone who can fully understand me. So, of course I cried and I wonder “Why Me.” I cried, cried, and cried. Than I thought to myself, why am I crying so harshly. I thought to myself that we will reunite in Heaven. But, it is was deeper  than that. I realized that I was blaming myself for my  mother’s death. All theses years I felt like she died because, of me. I always thought that if circumstances were different than she would be alive. I held myself accountable for her death. I realized that I was mad with myself and that I didn’t forgive myself. That was a powerful revelation. I’ve understand that my mom would have past, that day and that time regardless. So I’ve forgiven myself and I’ve retrained my thinking. I forgive me. If you’ve faced this or any other situation, I pray you forgive yourself. Overcome this situation. Reconditioned yourself and your thinking and understand that only, God knows the day and time for everyones return to Heaven.

Sleep With Me Mentally

Dear singles, that’s awaiting God to send you your spouse. I found a process of elimination to help you weed out the wrong one. This process is called “Attempt To Sleep With Me Mentally.”This means any man or woman that is a possible candidate should be able to touch you mentally. That person should  be able to fulfill You  on an intellectual level, by having great convetsations  and revealing their sense of humor, and personality. Being able to effectively communicate their ideas, emotions, and thoughts. Here’s my point, physical assets only represents a small percentage of who a person really is and at some point the human body does degenerate. And after the wining and dining and wild sex, you need some to intrigued mentally. I truly believe it’s easier for people to fall in love with a someone when they’re  mentally compatible. (SO, ENCOURAGE HIM OR HER  TO SLEEP WITH YOU MENTALLY BEFORE THEY TRY TO SLEEP WITH PHYSICALLY)

“Currently” Single and Satisfied

In the midst of my prayers, I began to wonder why my love life is burnt out. I’m literally started asking the Lord questions like: God why hasn’t any relationship  worked  out for me? Father where is my husband? Lord why is it that I’m getting so many counterfeits? I just don’t get it. I’ve turned my life around. I don’t drink, I don’t smoke, I don’t go to nightclubs, nor do I have male friends. I’ve even distanced myself from ungodly friendships. In addition to that I’ve  reinvented myself. My character is redeveloped, I’m now  the woman God wants me to be . To be honest, I feel like I’ve been made whole. The Lord is truly the head of my life. I fellowship weekly, I’m on everyone’s prayer line, I stay on my  knees praying. The list goes on and on. But I’m still single. I dont understand why ME, this  beautiful woman with great character is still single. Than it hit me, this is my season of singleness a time for me to seek God like never before. This is my time to freely get on my face and knees and pray without any wants or complaints. Straight worship and praising God for what he has done for myself, my children, and others. This period of my life is where I have to experience being BUSY and ALONE. (Busy: BUSY on the tasks God has assigned  me. Building a foundation for my family) (Alone: being alone to deal with myself, while God ministers inside of me. Therefore, the right one will not come until next season LoL! This process has made me patient. My relationship with my heavenly father has blossomed to an enchanted love story. My faith in him is stronger than ever. I know him to be a provider, a heart healer, and a lover. So, I’m going to enjoy this single season. Every now and than My flesh gets tempted but, I ask God to remove the urge until my husband finds me. I encourage you to stay faithful and patient to God in your singleness . THE PICTURE ABOVE SHOWS ME GLOWING, I’M NOT EXPECTING NOR DO I HAVE A MAN. THAT’S GOD ALL OVER ME

Don’t Depreciate Your Self Value

I don’t understand people. We are brilliant creatures yet wired. Why do both men and woman work so hard investing in theirselves just to get with a person who will depreciate their value. This is beyond my understanding. We take out student loans to invest in our education in hopes of a promising future. We establish a relationship with our hevenly and become good samaritans. We begin to love ourselves and work our flaws. We go far as eating healthy getting toned, setting and accomplishing goals, or simply being happy. Than out of no where we get with an individual who depriates our value. A person who is not being the best person they can be. A person who does not value education or career. A person who offers little or nothing in a relationship. A person who lacks self drive and self knowledge. A person who does not care about working on their flaws.  We get these people and our lives can be completely ruined. One would find out everything they once worked hard for has gone down the drain. I’ve been here before and I losted myself and suffered. I don’t want you to go through that. Don’t settle for a person because you are afraid to be by yourself. Don’t think that you have to settle because, every good man or woman is taking. (The devil is a liar) you better love yourself enough not to settle. You better have enough common scense to stay in the will God and to keep the faith. Always, remember you invest too much in yourself just to settle, for an individual who will depreciate your value. If you’re a hard worker than partner with another hard worker. God bless. And love yourself! The picture above is me, I’ve worked on myself and out. It took hard work and the grace of God for me to find my value. Therefore, I want allow anyone to depreciate my value.

Three things to do in your singleness

During your singleness please do three things. Establish a relationship with the Lord. Get to know him, understand his capabilities and his power. Gain a
a trustworthy relationship with,
him this is a faith builder. Allow God to reveal your purpose in your life. Second, during your singleness start loving yourself. embrace you, work on your flaws. Expound on your great attributes. You can even set goals such as, losing weight, finishing school, or anything that suits you. Lastly, birth out the vision God gave you. You have a purpose in life now fulfill it.          Be wise

Counterfeit men and woman

My post have been about life and my journey with my heavenly father but, I have not shared with you anything abkut my singleness. If you are a frequent reader you know I’m recently divorced and currently preparing myself for the man who God truly has for me. This has been a difficult task for me! I use to like men who are powerful and paid. Yes, read it correctly powerful and paid.  Here is why I love a firm man who can lead, be firm. I’m no woman who can deal with a soft man. My personality will overthrow his manhood, I’m just saying!  I love a man that’s paid here why it shows establishment, stablity, and ambitious. I have these three attributes therefore we would be compatible to an extent. There are more on my list than that of course, those are deciding factors! Anyhow, since I’m am a Christian woman I’ve been awaiting my husband to find me (and he has to be a seasoned Christian). This has been the hardest thing I’ve faced since breastfeeding!!! Anyhow, I’m saved yet the enemy has been sending his candidates as well. I call these men counterfeits, because they look authentic, appear to be genuine. However, they are fake.  As stated the enemy did send his candidates, I’m going to share my experience to help you distugish between a authentic spouse to be or counterfeit. Anyhow, since I’ve been fully devoted my life to christ I’ve being getting approached by men who were somewhat of my past (familiar spirits).  It started with a guy who approached me, he was in the military he was pretty nice yet he did not know Jesus, I did the Christian thing and told him about Jesus, however he had some deep rooted issues lol. Later, on down the line weeks later my pastor did alter call and called his name out. This happen three sundays in a row, I invited him to church but for some reason he was nervous. Long story short the emails stopped. I could not understand why, but months later I realized he was a counterfeit with one purpose! So, next the devil sent along a pilot, let’s say he was powerful, established, and very helpful he asked me out on a date than canceled I could not understand why. I thought to myself that no one ever cancels on me. So, I called him on his bluff to see if he was really into sistas such as myself, turns out the dude had a girlfriend who was an African American. God is not the author of confusion therefore he will not place you in mess. In union can we all say counterfeit! The enemy was for certain he will get me, he know I was going to fall for a powerful and paid man , so he sends an a millionaire!!!!!  At this point I’ve became an expert. So, here is how this went, we meet at paneras we chatted over my writing his company and exchanged business cards (I don’t believe in giving out my number hence, counterfeits). He would email me it would be brief and this only occured twice. Than one night he emailed me 3am, I went off. I felt as if this is disrespectful at 3am the only thing that is open are legs. Long story short, I put him in his placed in Godly manner. (If I was not saved he would gotten cursed out). Of course he played big shot about his millionaire status. In union let’s all say counterfeit. Lastly, just recently a man who is very known within my city and perhaps even in the gospel music industry approched me. This is so wired because I use to have a crush on his years ago. So, he sent me a message on FB it was at 1:36.  Y’all long story short I jumped down this man throat accused him of being married and all. It turns out that that this handsome, articulate, well dressed man is single. He is also a minister lord knows I tryed to fix it, I apologized and all however, That did not work! I’m not sure if he was a counterfeit yet Ill keep you all posted. I hoped this could bring forth humor and help within your singleness!

Foolish Woman & Ungrateful Man

Feeling some type of way in the last couple of month. I have been debating if I should open up my heart again or not. I’ve been married for now for years and let me tell there has been plenty of ups and downs. Let’s say while dating my than boyfriend, he cheated on me. While engaged to my than fiance, he cheated on me. Now while married to my husband he cheated on me. To tally things up one could either say three things he is a serial cheated, I’m not doing for him, or I’m simply a good woman who happens to be a fool in love trying to keep her family together. Anyhow, I want to take on the perfect angle myself, let’s be honest I became a scorned woman myself. Moving forward my husband and I are back together, but things are a bit different. This time around I can’t fully open myself up. Not to think negative, while being realistic I feel like my husband heart has not fully change. I do believe he loves and care for me, but there’s something inside of him that is still not at ease.  So, I had my feelings because I don’t want my bruised heart to be plunge again. So, once again I pray and ask my Heavenly Father to let me know if my husband, is my true husband. I’ve asked for a sign and the next day here is what I find.

As you can see its a simple text on facebook. Here’s what made him

approach her status states “I feel like riding dick from the back.” So he felt the need to inbox her for, what reason, other than wanting to have sex. Of, course he denied that. Truth is every man around simply said he is trying sleep with this woman. Wow, is all I could say, I thought to myself this is why I can’t open up. This is why I continue to have a broken heart and shattered dream??????  If I allow him to come back, will he attack again??? Am I really the fool I feel like. Readers please share your opinion on this topic! GOD BLESS AND BE YOUR BLESSINGS

Sugar Does Melt!

Sugar does melt!

Have you ever paid attention to how finely cut sugar is, how each grain has its very own sweetness, and how unique it feels. I just learned that when sugar melts it turns into syrup, it looses its shape (foundation), the taste is a bit diffent (bitter), things become more sticky (messy and everywhere). Well belive it or not everyday relationships and marriages things can become this way.

When you’re committed to someone don’t take them for granted as we learned “Sugar Does Melt.” Meaning the love, peace, and sweetness; can be lost if you take the person you love for granted. When arguing quit breaking up or filing for divorce on every simple thing, and thinking thagt you partner will always want to endure that pain. Know that there is power, life and death in your tougune. Don’t let your relationship start off like sweet (sugar) and end off bitter (syrup).

If your spouce is kind hearted and not combative as you are than, don’t push them that point due to your silly ways. Argueing causes stress, tention, and mishaps; check yourself before you loose the best thing that came your way. Wheater you’re a man or woman its hard to come by diamonds, and God is not to keep giving you the man/woman of your dreams if did not charish the last one. “Sugar does melt.”
God bless and be a blessing!

Marriage Minister Decives The Husband And Creeps with The Wife!

Whats love? When a person says they love you thank you will expect guine treatment and affectionate. I’m curious of why people love each other they begin to hate and hurt each other. I have a friend who means the world to me who is currently fighting for her marriage but at some point I think she will be throwing in the towel being that her husband cheated on her. My girlfriend was a wreck however she tried to cope with her problems (By the way her name is Amber and her spouse name is Patick) Anyhow, this once loving couple decided to seek counseling. The couple found a wonderful minister at their church. The minister was wonderful he help the couple with their issues, the minister had personal relationships with both parties. The minister also gave amazing advice for Amber and Patrick. Patrick discovered why he cheated and decided that he wanted to make a change to keep his wife. He came home to be with his family, he was much more pleasant and sensible.
On the other hand, Amber was tired of being the wholesome wife so she and the minister decided to take their personal relationship to the next level. Amber and the minister began to sleep together behind Patricks back, thing grew intense very quickly. That did not last long once church members informed patrick about his behavior with the minister. Suddenly, Patrick put the pieces together once he caught the two of them in bed together.

Patick was devastated he was even considering killing this man, he owned seral firearms and he considered to one of them (BUT GOD). Long story short, my friend played a dirty act she should have left him if she could not forgive him.

When you’re in a relationship o marriage when events as such occur its proper to fully recover from this. Get guidance from someone who is willing to extended help. Always keep God first and prevalent. If you remain in a relationship as such, learn how to forgive. Always remember to sew good seeds with others. Love your spouse as you would love yourself. Lastly, know that woman and men come and go, don’t kill over a man or woman because when you are behind bars everyone is living their life. GOD BLESS AND BE A BLESSING